If we are into analogies then my favourite is the Lego one. Imagine you and your 27 classmates have been building a city out of Lego for many years. It’s large and complex. Suddenly you decide to tell your classmates you don’t want to play any more and you want your blue Lego bricks back. You expect them to immediately accommodate you even though taking the blue bricks away will destroy some of the things that you’ve all agreed to build together. Instead of being accommodating and pragmatic about arranging this and taking responsibility for the difficulties your decision has caused others you kick up a real tantrum and demand your bricks back immediately and say that you never ever want to play with them again, even though there are a number of other games that you enjoy. You expect them to clear up the mess and do the hard work in rearranging things for you. You’re a bit of a **** really and need to grow up.