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Forum Rules

The ComeAllWithin forum provides you with the ability to communicate with other Harlequins fans and supporters in a similar way in which you communicate with your friends through social media. 

A basic summary of the rules comes from the 1960s musical "Hair" where they said

"Kids, be free, be whatever you are, do whatever you want to do, just so long as you don't hurt anybody."

Copyright and Copying

If you wish to draw attention to a published article (such as an article in the Grauniad) then do not copy the whole article but simply make a link to it (see Guide to Writing Messages). This avoids any issues with copyright. 

If the article is from behind a paywall, then copying it may infringe copyright. In order to minimise the risk of this:

  • Always provide a link back to the original article
  • Always include the title of the article, the name of the author, the date of its publication, and the source (Telegraph, Times etc..)
  • Wait 24 hours before copying information from an article (yesterdays news is todays chip papers - harder to prove financial loss on old news)
  • If possible, do not copy all the article. Only the bits relevant to people on this message board. The less you copy the harder to prove copyright infringement. 
  • Unless it really helps the dialogue, do not reproduce photos/gifs from the original article. This will help the argument that it is not the whole article posted. 
  • Ensure any copyright information on the article or photos within the article is reproduced

Play the ball, not the person! 

Do not make personal remarks about other posters, do not make personal attacks on other posters, do not attack individuals mentioned in posts, or attack other commenters. We encourage committed and passionate debate, but ad-hominem insults or insinuations are not part of this. Debate the issues, do not attack individuals.

Do not fling insults/insulting terms labelling individuals or groups who disagree with you (e.g. the term "woke" "snowflake" "politically correct" "remoaners" etc...). 

Do not tell people how to think. Do not put someone down because they disagree with you. Do not make remarks that indicates their opinion is worth less than yours because it is different. 

If all posters agreed with each other, a forum would be a dull and unenlightening space. But there are ways to phrase an opposing view without resorting to foul language, labelling, incivility or SHOUTING. Even if you believe what another poster is saying is unreasonable, express your response in a reasonable fashion. Respect each other as human beings. 

No swearing 

Any profanity/swear words in forum users' communications will not be tolerated. Do not use numbers, abbreviations, misspellings, ***** or some such  to avoid the profanity checker or obfuscate profanity/swear words. We cannot control the age of people who read these boards, so bear that in mind when you post.

Stay on topic (everyone is guilty of this!)

Of course we want discussion to be as wide-ranging as possible, and we understand that conversations can take unexpected turns. But we’d like to make the forum a place for people to talk about the topic in front of them. Resorting to generalisations or dragging the discussion off on a tangent that is not pertinent is boring and repetitive and kills insightful debate.

Do not start a new thread when there is already a thread on the same topic.

Cyber bullying

Although forum users are encouraged to express themselves and their point of view, there is certain content that is inappropriate, including content which is deemed at the forum moderators' sole discretion to be:

  • Threatening in any way or intimidating, harassing, bullying or showing disrespect for any individual or group;
  • Illegal, libelous, defamatory, derogatory, demeaning, discriminatory, deceptive, malicious, abusive, offensive, or hateful towards any individual or group;
  • Racist, sexist, homophobic, offensive on the grounds of religion, nationality or demographic group.

Do not make comments which are threatening or harassing or which could be perceived as such;

You must not hide your identity, impersonate anyone else or misrepresent your affiliation with any person or entity.

You may not have more than one user account for the forum.  

You must have a valid email address associated with your account. Failure to do this may result in you being unable to login should your password be changed or some such. 

No trolling

You must not engage in antisocial, disruptive, or destructive acts, including "flaming," "spamming," "flooding," "trolling," and "griefing" as those terms are commonly understood and used on the Internet. 

Having a different viewpoint to other posters or holding views that are not palatable to all-comers is not trolling if those views are sincerely held. However, don’t be provocative just for the sake of it. Equally, if you feel someone else is being deliberately provocative, don’t respond – it only encourages them. If you feel strongly that a post made by another user are deeply offensive as outlined in these guidelines, let us know by reporting the poster.

Do Not Feed the Trolls

I must not feed the Trolls

This is the supposed solution to the issue of provocative/incendiary/aggressive posts - just ignore them and the poster. Well and good if you have the self control that let's you do that, it is probably the best solution. However a lot of people respond immediately to a trolling piece, without questioning the whys and wherefores of its existence. Some people simply don't recognise what they're into until too late. 

If you see something that you feel an urgent need to respond to immediately, the best thing to do is take a break. The "road rage" response can be overcome with the logical response, but it takes time for that second response to kick in. Then pen a calm and reasoned response if you feel you must. 

Do not get involved with the poster, see "Play the man not the ball" above. Stay away from personal observations/insults. That only worsens the situation and spats like that can poison the board. 

Feeding trolls gives them power and a sense of accomplishment. Their reason for existence is to amuse themselves posting provocative, hostile or annoying content. They claim to take part in discussions but in fact exist to cause trouble. Trolls will frequently use a persecution defence when called out, claiming innocent intent and complaining of censorship because their viewpoint is unpopular. 

Safeguard personal information

You must respect the privacy of individuals. This means no posting of real names, phone numbers, addresses or any other private information.

You are encouraged not to post such information even about yourselves, as there is no control how that information may be used beyond the forum. 

Personal messages are just that. Personal between you and the sender. Do not make their contents public without the permission of the other party. 


We still get some folks able to paste ratings that are not allowed on this board.

What are ratings, they're the funny little buttons in the bottom right of a message which look like
Picture of Available Ratings
The text associated with these ratings are:- Like Agree Funny Winner Wow Informative Love
Please only use these ratings even if you still can use others.

Rules re puns

For some reason some people seem to feel the need to produce puns based on the thread discussions. While seemingly harmless, this can be irritating if others are trying to have a sensible discussion. Trying to accommodate both sides, the rule is that a thread which has not been posted on for 48 hours is fair game for puns, but threads that are more recent should be left alone. 

No selling

No non-rugby solicitations or advertisements are allowed unless first agreed with the Admin. This includes advertisements for your business, your own online endeavors or the latest get-rich-quick scheme. 


For the first five posts a new user makes, they will not be able to subsequently go back and delete or amend their post. 




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